I’ve always had a loose relationship with Memorial Day. I
loved celebrating it, of course; what’s not to love about a three day weekend?
But the meaning of Memorial Day was always somewhat abstract, probably because
I’ve never actually had a member of my family die in battle. I had a
great-great grandfather who survived the Civil War (he was a Confederate
private), my grandfather’s family fled the Ukraine to avoid the Russo-Japanese
War, my father missed World War II but ended up on an aircraft carrier during
the Korean War. And although the pilots who took off from his ship didn’t
always make it back, he never saw any direct action. As for myself, I was
fourteen when Vietnam ended. Thank God.
So growing up, Memorial Day has never meant much more to me than a long
weekend in May.
As a teacher, I’ve always marked Memorial Day with an
explanation of what it means and what we’re supposed to be honoring with our
day off. And since I work with young children, they have always been eager to
share their stories of relatives who died in war. (Or simply died, although I
try to move those stories along) This has been a staple of my May lesson plans
for decades.
Recently, however, my Memorial Day lesson has become a little
awkward, and it has to do with where I work.